“And evil takes a human form in Regina George. Don’t be fooled because she may seem like your typical selfish, back-stabbing slut faced ho-bag, but in reality, she’s so much more than that.” ~Lizzy Caplan, Mean Girls
High school to most of us was just a fun place where we could mingle with people, in and around our age. Relationships, friendships and unfortunately enemies were formed. I graduated nine years ago and I’m fortunate to have kept every friend I had from that time period. Other people’s “social cliches” have long dissipated and eroded away with time. However, today’s blog isn’t about the long standing friendships I’ve maintained, it’s about the enemies who made high school unbearable for others. If you were bullied or tormented by the “in crowd”, could you ever let that go?
I remember high school as a time to find myself. That job isn’t made any easier when you’re herded into a certain group or demographic and then ridiculing you for it. Can you believe after nine years I still know women who don’t like certain people from high school, just based on their attitudes back then? Really can you blame them? Having never truly been harassed, I can’t understand the full scope of what tormenting and bullying entails. The film ‘Mean Girls’ went into great depth about the social dynamics within the school system and quite frankly, it’s gotten much worse.
There are campaigns, commercials, open forums and discussion groups, born out of bullying. The act itself has caused people to commit suicide, become submissive and caused others to take up arms, shooting anyone involved. The Columbine incident wasn’t an isolated incident either, it just was the most publicized. Why do people harass others?
To investigate the mind of a bully would be interesting. One of my favourite film directors, Larry Clark, made a film (Bully) which looked at the life of a bully and the people he tortured. These victims decided to retaliate and plotted a successful murder. They were tried and convicted. The whole film was surreal, little had I known that it was based on a true event and everyone in the film was real.
‘Do unto others as you would have them do to you’ is a verse from Luke, in the new international bible. I learned this early and often, having three siblings and many cousins. Why don’t others grasp this concept? If we could see the bullies home life and understand the strains they may be on, we’d have a better look into why they act as thus. It could be a superiority complex, showing one’s power over another. Maybe it’s just for the sake of making themselves look “big” infront of a crowd, also known as “showing off”. Who knows? Your guess would be as good as mine.
In conclusion, there seems to be a lot of “insufficient daddying” going on, which is another blog for another time. Having a sound mind is a bi-product of a good upbringing, cause and effect. In my household, you misbehave and you were either spanked andor told to stand in the corner. If these lessons were imparted during childhood, they would be second nature rather than a foreign concept. Not to say these particular models of discipline are correct, but they worked more or less in my time. Children are much different now and there’s no telling what an immature, self-entitled mind may do. The whole subject is made murky because it starts at the top (parents) and filters all the way to the bottom (victim). Is there really a solution?