“I’m just such a gentleman
you should give it up for me
look at how I’m placing all my napkins and my cutlery”
The last of a dying breed is a label often used to describe the gentleman. In today’s society, they’ve become obsolete. Men and women don’t treat each other like yesteryear and it’s disturbing. Divorce rates are testament to that fact.
Gentlemen have become relics amidst a sea of players, fake thugs and abusive men. The gentlemen that remain are consistently bombarded to assimilate.
When I talk to my people about their dating experiences, mostly plenty of fish endeavours, the stories are unbelievable. One guy actually left his date, my friend, downtown, by herself, mid date. Really?! That can’t be life.
Another dude drove out of State to “surprise” the girl he was talking to at work. Considering that it’s a three hour drive between States, she was definitely taken aback and not in a good way. To make matters worse, he was married and scolded his wife for confronting the girl he was dating. I mean, dude! What is your major malfunction? Is everyone crazy?
I came across this list and liked it immediately. Not all points apply to me, but I get the overall point. Enjoy the read and if you have any horror date stories, please share, I’ll be using them for a blog next month.
1. Common sense is the new black, it always wins.
2. Kindness goes a long way
3. Never trust a man who wears an eye patch
5. Camouflage should only be worn in the presence of the animal you are hunting. Furthermore, hunting should only be done as a means of survival.
6. The line between confidence and arrogance is very thin. Always know where that line is.
7. The best suit is a tailored one.
9. You have two ears and one mouth for a reason.
11. Never trust a politician. In fact, never trust anyone with that style of haircut.
12. Shut the computer and pick up a newspaper every once in a while.
14. Never hesitate on how you want your steak done.
15. Never trust anyone with two first names.
17. Brunch and Brinner are acceptable meal choices. They should not be optional.
18. A gentleman is one who puts more into the world than he takes out.
20. There is nothing wrong with aging gracefully.
21. Watch location = left wrist
23. Learn from those who came before you.
25. Living up to your own expectations can be the hardest part of life.
26. Items that don’t have to match = watch, belt, slacks, socks and shoes.
27. Whenever someone asks me if I want water with my Scotch, I say I’m thirsty, not dirty.
28. Opening the door for a lady is not optional, and will never go out of style. This means any door.
29. Just keep walking. This applies to almost everything in life.
30. You really do need to know when to hold ‘em and when to fold ‘em.
31. The road to becoming a gentleman begins with character and there’s plenty of potholes along the way.
32. Sometimes low self-esteem is earned. It’s the correct response if you are not trying your best.
33. Always provide correction in private and praise in public.
34. Cufflinks when appropriate are never optional.
35. Your style is defined by what makes you comfortable.
36. Your outlook on life defines how you react to those life changing moments.
37. Talent is God-given. Be humble. Fame is man-given. Be grateful. Conceit is self-given. Be careful.
38. The quality of your friends always matters more than the quantity. Don’t lose sight of this, make your Facebook cuts accordingly.
39. The fear of becoming a ‘has been’ keeps some people from becoming anything. Live everyday outside of your comfort zone.
40. Everyday people shape and influence your life. Find the right people and you’ll be a better person for it.
41. Ties are meant to compliment a wardrobe, it should never be the focal point.
42. Nothing beats a good hat, so long as it is removed indoors.
43. When you’re with someone you love, make sure in that moment they know that they’re the centre of your world.
44. Be honest in your opinion. Be gracious in your opinion. Be humble in your tone. Be thankful for what you’re given.
47. Compliment others early and often. Praise never gets old and is always appreciated.
49. When you’re actively listening, prove it by looking into the eyes of the speaker.
50. Give consistently without keeping a tally. Whether it be your time, resources or knowledge, the rest will work itself out.