“The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” ~ Nelson Mandela
I never use the word hate in my vocabulary. I know the power of words and that may very well be the most evil word. With that said, I hate fear. I hate being afraid to speak for fear of being wrong. I hate not speaking to women that are beautiful for fear of rejection. I hate conforming for fear of being different. I hate fear!
Fear is something I intend to abolish on my travels. You could argue in an effort to conquer fear, I saw the fork in the road and moved right. Right into my dreams, or rather, out of my dreams. I got to a point where talking wasn’t enough and action was taken.
I purchase my ticket next month, non-refundable and no turning back.
I will come to a point when all my fears will be a thing of the past. Things are always frightening until they’re accomplished and they look miniscle in the rear view. Reminds me when I was young and video games were difficult, I would never quit until I prevailed. That’s how I intend to live this life, not yielding until I become an ideal. An ideal that influences people to do better for themselves, their families and the human condition.
So, fear? I know you can hear me. I will not yield. I will not quit. You may keep me at bay momentarily, but I will topple you and eventually you’ll cease to exist. You’ll be part of my history, a person I won’t even recognise.
If you hate fear too, do something about it. What are you afraid of? It could be anything, public speaking? Romance? Intimacy? Insects? The unknown? Loneliness? Anything! Kick fear in the stomach and elbow drop it (R.I.P. Randy Savage). Make your move, you’re the only one that can.
Actions speak louder than words, right? So, this weekend I will do something out of the ordinary. I will do something that I normally wouldn’t and on Monday, I’ll tell you all what it was. Deal? Deal.
CDQue
What everyBODY is saying
30 May“I speak two languages, body and english” ~ Mae West
I realize that learning to speak seven different languages in a finite window would be time consuming. I opted to learn from an authority on the subject of body language. I had originally bought Joe Navarro’s book on body language for my budding poker career. Having seen the err in that career choice, I was happy the book could serve a more practical application.
It has been weeks of observation, humans truly are strange and unique creatures. I have found that words may lie, but rarely does the body. People’s mannerisms are predictable, turns out that our self-absorption just prevents us from seeing face front. We squint when angry, use our thumbs as tools to display confidence and cross our legs toward or away from someone we like or dislike, respectfully. These are only a few of our glitches.
We, as people, telegraph our thoughts and emotions through our bodies. It’s fascinating and probably why this text has taken me over a month to read. Reading material that commands application after every chapter is quite the task.
My conclusions are still scattered at best, but I’m learning. I will continue to stare and peer uncomfortably until I’ve mastered this skill. It can only help to provide insight into my journey. My challenge to you, take a moment to truly understand the intent of a person through body language this week.
Fear Challenge: I said I’d step out of my comfort zone this weekend. I don’t know if I can declare victory, because I didn’t do the work. My close friends know I view the nightclub as something to be enjoyed, but I hardly consider it a place to meet someone. I intended to do just that last weekend, go to the club and speak to someone I considered beautiful. Well, I can tell you that I went to the club. I saw a beautiful woman. It was unclear how I’d approach her, but luckily the work was done for me.
There I am, sipping Guiness and laughing with my friends, AC and Kit Kat. I turn around to a woman, “hi, I don’t know if this is your girlfriend, but I want you to know your looking fine”. After my diatribe on body language, it should be easy for you to picture a Nubian man visibly blushing. I was speechless and seriously, how does someone respond to that?
Well, this woman’s brash introduction aided in breaking the ice with the woman I chose to meet. Without getting into details, let me just say I did get her number and from what I can gather, she’s a delightful woman.
C.D.Que