“Remember, your words, your dreams, and your thoughts have the power to create conditions in your life. What you speak about, you can bring about.” ~ Tyrese Gibson
Singer. Actor. Model. Author??? Formerly known for his ballads to women, Tyrese hits you hard with a dose of potent inspiration. When I originally heard people praising this book, I had my reservations. My only experience with Tyrese, up until that point, was that he was a blossoming actor/songbird from the hood. First, I’d like to apologize for my ignorance and secondly, I’d also like to praise this piece of work as the triumph it is.
The book starts with a prayer and mini bio about the talented performers life in Watts, California. For those not in the know, Watts is a heavily populated gang neighbourhood; between 1989 and 2005, police reported more than 500 homicides (wikipedia). That is mind-boggling to me, I can’t even fathom growing up in that environment. While the song and dance of rags to riches has been overused in the hip hop and R&B community for years, Tyrese’s candor is refreshing. Primarily because he writes just the way he speaks and it adds another dimension to this book. It’s more like a conversation than a literary work or self-help manifest.
After reading the struggles he experiences and the providence that provided him an outlet to become what he is today. We delve into some deep topics about; self-love, mastering your environment, cultivating friendships (5 People), relationships and women.
All of the topics express something relatable to it’s audience. He motivates you to make a change, or, in my case, tweak some minor things to correct my circumstance. The chapter on ‘How Much Do You Love Yourself?’ reached into my mind and turned a broken cog that had stalled. Everything was illuminated once it was read on print, the cure to some self-destructive ills were made blatantly apparent. The gaps in past judgement and present follies were right there to rectify and I was missing the opportunity. I was completely sold on this book after the second chapter.
The cosign from one of my personal heroes didn’t hurt either – Will Smith. If not for him, Tyrese might have disregarded his potential and failed terribly. The guidance received from Mr. Blockbuster to a downward spiraling Tyrese helped him reach that next level. Not only as a singer-actor, but as an individual.
“I’ve watched Tyrese for many years – I’ve watched him succeed; I’ve watched him fail; I’ve seen him as a beneficiary of serendipity, and I’ve watched him suffer at his own hand. And in the recent years, as we’ve become friends, I’ve witnessed Tyrese Gibson learn how to get out of his own way as he wrestled his destiny from the fickle hands of fate.” ~ Will Smith
The book overall is truly brilliant, but I’d be remiss if I didn’t mention a flaw that rang out. The portion on women is contradicting in parts and as a whole, falls apart for me. His views on dating are strange, due to the fact he berates men for doing similar behaviour that he demonstrates under the shroud of honesty. The fact that he’s honest does give him the right to explore his choices, if the woman decides to stick around. However, his description of the perfect woman looks a lot like a 1960′s Barbara Billingsley cut out. It reads very odd, when put up against the rest of the material.
That chapter aside, this book is truly great. Add it to your collection and you won’t be disappointed, you may view him in a completely different light.
Carpe Diem Que