“But everybody thinks
That everybody knows
About everybody else
Now now now nobody knows
Anything about themselves
Cause their all worried about everybody else yea”
~ Jack Johnson, Wasting Time
Okay, here’s a couple things to think about. What do you stand for? Who are you and how will you be remembered? It’s not mandatory to have a philosophy for life, but it definitely helps. I believe in a couple, in no particular order…save for number 1.
1) Think positively…all the time!!
2) Love entirely
3) Treat your mind & body correctly and it’ll do right by you in old age.
4) Learn something new everyday
5) You have two eyes, two ears and one mouth, therefore, listen and watch more than you speak
6) Life is to spent, not saved
7) Be absolutely comfortable in your own skin. Why try to fit in, when you’re a standout
8) Accept responsibility. Forget excuses.
This list isn’t everything, but it definitely is the building blocks. I wrote something last year, December 7th, about meeting a couple, not exchanging information and reconnecting a year later. The date came and went, unfortunately Frank couldn’t make it. I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t timid to see him again. Last year was a glorious time, full of excitement and boundless possibilities. While this year has been fun and I’ve gained a lot of life experience, I still feel like I’m not doing things correctly.
My venture isn’t to sit, but to move and be around new people. Always pushing the envelope and aspiring to new levels. Being thirty with no wife, girlfriend or kids is the optimal time to explore your inner beliefs. Some would call it a rut, but I don’t believe in that. I think I may have become complacent, so, in times like these, I retrace my steps. In an effort to propel myself forward, I read, write, reason and centre. If you’re doing your research in the wrong library, the only logical thing to do would be to search for the right place.
I watch the people I love around me questioning themselves and worrying tirelessly about their futures. It’s a bloody damper. I’m not exempt from these same musings, but I do it internally and tinker with the formula constantly to find the right balance. I quiver when I see them lamenting about things that went wrong. So, what’s the answer? Why aren’t people asking themselves this more often?
As a person with a healthy fear of success (something I’ve never admitted publicly), I still find the courage to delineate where my objectives meet my planning. I set goals and try my damnedest to secure them, if I fail, I think of some other way to clutch them. What this all boils down to is, what do you believe? What is the philosophy that governs your years, days and minutes? Most people don’t even know what they want for dinner, much less what they want for their life. While I have an overview, which changes constantly, the important thing is that I still have that blueprint. When things are detrimental to my success, I expunge them. I have no problem cutting my losses on negative aspects of my personality and you shouldn’t either. If you feel you’re gaining a spare tire around your stomach, do one of two things – exercise or live with it. If your relationship isn’t working – cut the cord or suffer, Al Bundy style. If you hate your job, don’t bitch, do something about it. There’s always choices, that’s why I’m vehemently against suicide. Stand for something or fall for anything.
I challenge you, find what your life philosophy is and abide by it. Don’t spend your time lollygagging because any moment could be your last. A girl I know said she liked the way I involved everyone, instead of intimating people. That is one of the highest compliments a person can bestow upon anyone. To be the person people want to be around is amazing. It doesn’t always work this way because I speak my mind frequently and it doesn’t always mesh with what others believe. That’s an occupational hazard though.
In conclusion, know this last tidbit of information. Being rich doesn’t equate to happiness. Working for the weekend may be your reality, but it makes you an automaton. If you resist trying new things, you’ll always be missing the opportunity to love something new.
This video is from one of my favourite bloggers who has a similar theory on life and actually sparked the inception for this blog. Look it up, ooamerica. Enjoy, peace and love.
Carpe Diem Que