If I should have a daughter – Part Two

And I ain’t tryna mess ya thing up
But I just wanna see you dream up
I finally understand
It ain’t easy to raise a girl as a single man
Nah, the way mothers feel for they sons, how fathers feel for they daughters
When he date, he straight, chip off his own papa
When she date, we wait behind the door with the sawed off
Cuz we think no one is good enough for our daughters
Love

A holiday tailored toward family’s jolted my creative brain.  I have to confess to not being as active in my writing this month.  I apologize.  Busy would be an understatement.  Between cultivating something new, working six days a week, planning for my move and researching possible avenues to make Freedom 45 a reality, I’ve been a tad spent.  Watching people’s faces yesterday made me think about writing the continuation of this piece.

If I should have a daughter.  Those are some weighted words.  I’m self admittedly not very fearful of much this world has to offer, but a daughter has the power to break a man.  What’s that saying, it doesn’t matter how hard of a person you are, when a child calls you on their toy phone, you answer.  I have five nieces, one nephew.  I work towards my zenith for myself, but also for their benefit, so they know it’s possible.  I share a special bond with them because I don’t have children of my own.  When I have a my own children, I feel like this free spirit will become tempered by the love of a child.

So, If I should have a daughter…

1)  I would tell her to respect herself, so that others will to.

2)  I would tell her to be beautiful on the inside and out.

3)  I would nurture her creative nature because artists see the world through an abstract lens.

4)  I would tell her to find a man better than her father.  Never settle for the status quo.

5)  I would tell her to be curious, but cautious.

6)  I would tell her to be truthful, not malicious.  People guise their nasty attitudes by placing them under the umbrella of truth.  Don’t say “I’m just being honest” unless you can counter with a better solution.

7)  I would tell her to use both her logic and her heart when drawing conclusions.

8)  I would tell her life is short.  Don’t waste your time trying to change a man who has potential, but little drive enough to uncover it.

9)  I would tell her to listen to the truth in art, whether it be paintings, music, film and/or performing arts.  There is always a theme, just like in life.

10) I would tell her to use her words.  One of her father’s favourite artists said “Never waste any lines” and I expect the same of you.  Say what you mean and mean what you say.

11) I would tell her “I love her”, early and as often as possible.  This bullet point should never be called into question.  I will raise my voice, but never yell at you.  Yelling is more a battle of superiority than the key to solving anything.

Speaking of bullets, I heard the news this morning and two ten-year olds planned a conspiracy to kill a classmate with a Colt Forty-five revolver and knife.  Their reasoning, “the girl was annoying”.  Let me make an addendum to my previous comment, this right here scares the hell out of me.  One, because I will always teach you express your individualism and that may be annoying to other people.  Two, because as a free spirit, prison frightens the hell out of me, but I’d openly welcome it if anyone was to harm you.

If I’m not around by the time you wed, allow this living testimony to speak on my behalf.  You should always know you’re love, you should do everything possible to make others in your circumference feel the same.  There will be times where you feel that you’re not pretty, that’s okay, it’s human.  Your father felt like an ugly duckling most of his life.  The trick is to be comfortable with who you are and everything else falls into place.  You’re just one long line away from a Tetrix.

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